I swore I would never have children. I swore it up and down for years. On my first date with my now-husband, I told him that I did not want kids. I also said I did not believe in the institution of marriage, and, well, you can see how that turned out.

In my twenties, I rolled my eyes at everyone who said, “Oh just give it time, you will eventually change your mind.” And while I would prefer not to let them be right, something has changed. …

I was a cheater. But trust in my partner changed that for me.

How I arrived at where I am now

I was proposed to twice. I said yes only once.

Suiter #1 who asked me bought a ring flew me to Costa Rica and got down on one knee. He had known me for 5 years. The other man did not fly me anywhere, he did not buy a ring, nor did he get down on one knee. He had known me just shy of 3 years.

Which one did I say yes to? Well, as you can probably tell from below, it wasn’t the first guy.

In an age of marriage equality, female empowerment, Facebook relationship statuses, the recognition of long-term cohabitation and a generation that can’t afford to live on their own, why are people still marrying each other?

Sure, you can sit there and pretend like you don’t want it or that you are not even interested in the idea. But if that’s the case, why do we care so deeply about others who ritualize their pair-bonding? Meghan Markle, anyone? And why do we spend unimaginable amounts of money on a single day? For your information, the worldwide wedding industry is estimated to be…

Two days ago my husband asked me, “Is this as good as it will get?”

My first reaction was to shout “Hell no! There is so much still to do! To see! To conquer! Etc.”

I saw the worry in his face about our businesses (we have 3 between the 2 of us), his fear of buying a house together, his (and my) concerns about settling down, and all the other anxieties he holds inside. I finally said, “No.”

Four weeks ago I started the altMBA and was asked to write down a goal. The goal was to launch…

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”

I have always adored Marianne Williamson’s poem, to this day, reading it or hearing it gives me goosebumps. Why does it have this effect on me? It is because this poem so precisely identifies my own fears. My fears of doing great things. When I was younger I played a sport…


All-knowing being on four legs

I like to play the game with myself “What is Samwise (my dog) thinking?”

My usual response is that he is thinking something to the extent of “Ugh, these fucking humans. The things they make me do for food.” I sometimes imagine Samwise with the voice of Morgan Freeman and then the thoughts get more profound.

Instead, I imagine when he looks up at me for no reason, i.e. I have no food, he is telling me “Just be in the moment Carly, like me.” Or when I scratch his tummy and he rolls…

The altMBA is about digging deep, asking yourself difficult questions. It is a process that is led with a light touch. There are deadlines, but there are no grades, which begs the question, how do you know if you are doing it right. I am at the halfway point in this journey and I come to realize that you are doing it right when it is terribly uncomfortable. Because it is when you are uncomfortable and choose to lean in, dive deep and muck around in the mess that comes to the surface, that is when you are preparing yourself…

“Don’t be a litter bug.” Was one of my favorite things to say to other people when I was little. My state ran this incessant Public Service Announcements (PSA) that included this cute bug littering and an even cuter bug telling him to essentially pick up after yourself. I said this once to someone when I moved to London and they looked at me like I was crazy. That is when I realized first, how localized my experience was, and second, how that phrase had stayed with me for years, actually decades at this point. What had it? It was…


Launch the first privately run coworking space in the region of Dalmatia in Croatia.


At the onset of this project I viewed the world as a place where everyone aspires to work for themselves or at least independently. I believed those people would want to embrace the freedom that they have by traveling, specifically traveling while continuing to work. I viewed the world as a place where we all want the chance to travel and that there are enough people doing it in beautiful places that it would support a business.

I imagined that the users viewed the…


I was in my first year of high school when the shooting at Columbine happened, the very first mass killing at a high school in the United States. It was the moment gun ownership became an abhorrent idea to me. For me there has never been such a thing as “sensible” gun regulation that still allows people to own guns. …

Carly Petracco

I ran away to Portugal to start a food tour and wedding celebranting business after a decade in IFIs. I adore writing, my dog, naps, and reinventing myself.

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